How to Know If You are Having Too Much S*x

 

They say you can never get enough of a good thing. This might be wrong when it comes to s*x. Yes, there are actually physical side effects of having too much s*x.

S*x experts have revealed that one or both partners can experience rashes, irritation, or even genital micro-tears as a result of too much getting down.

Another way a person can feel like they are overdoing it is if the partner's s*x drive outmatches theirs. Appeasing and pleasing a partner's high sexual appetite can make you feel like you are having too much s*x. One or more partners may feel overwhelmed by the expectation to perform sexually more than the other and this can cause withdrawal and resentment.

A s*x expert, Madeleine Castellanos, M.D said "if stuff is not getting done - like cleaning the house, going to work, or taking care of your basic needs-in order to have s*x, then it's probably too much s*x."
And if the thing you're not doing is working on your relationship - subbing in makeup sex for the tough talks you should be having - then you might be getting it on too often. "Using s*x as a way to resolve problems in the relationship in lieu of talking about them might be a way that a couple uses sex to avoid the actual work of the relationship," says Castellanos.

Finally, while "s*x is a source of pleasure and vitality and it's natural to have a strong drive for it, if you find that you look for sex compulsively, you may be using sex as an outlet for something else," warns Castellanos.
 

All these being said, however, it is very unlikely that anyone is having too much s*x.

For the most part, partners don't want to get down all the time and even if they do their schedules don't allow it. When it comes to the frequency of s*x, each person has their preference which is then limited by their schedule, their sleep pattern, and of course, their partner's availability,

Over time, a couple finds their sweet spot and has s*x a comfortable amount for them - whatever that may be. The majority of people find that this falls somewhere between one to two times per week and this frequency is usually higher during the first couple of years of a relationship.

As time goes on, you may actually see a dip in your s*x schedule. It's very realistic that couples cut down their frequency of s*x after the first few years, partly because of a drop in dopamine and partly because of their routine. But over the course of your relationship, that's OK.

Couples will find their own ebb and flow. There will be times of more s*x and times of less. The most important thing is to stay connected and communicate so that you can weather and enjoy wherever you are on the spectrum.