Have you been wondering about how you can have s*x soon after childbirth? Then you should go through this carefully.
S*x after childbirth can be scary for many women; even though
childbirth makes them to have all it takes to make their husbands want
more sex on mere sighting them; talk of larger (milk-filled) breasts and
pointed nipples. It is even for this reason that some men ‘compete for’
or ‘alternate’ the breasts with their new babies.
Although s*xual intercourse is not encouraged until six weeks
after, for those who had normal delivery, to allow the body heal faster
and avoid likely infections, some men have often described such women as
more attractive. But those might not be enough to boost the confidence
and preparedness of some women to resume sexual activities with their
husbands, and the fears may not be misplaced after all.
For those who had normal delivery, some tend to be apprehensive of
what their partners would think of what has become of their body,
largely because of their fatigued and ‘loose body.’ Coupled with
exhaustion and other things that could take their minds away from going
for another romp in the sack, it is not uncommon to see that some
couples’ s*x lives derail after childbirth.
And on the other hand, for those who had Caesarean Section, the
pain may not abate quickly, which makes sex somewhat painful. Even
though the tightness of the vagina is retained when a woman gives birth
through CS, which is the reason why some men encourage their wives to go
through the operation to avoid having a loose vagina afterwards,
studies have however shown that s*x may become more painful for such
couples after childbirth until it heals completely. Thus, such women shy
away from it for some time.
Impliedly, whether the delivery was done through normal delivery,
use of some equipment, through CS or there was episiotomy, which is a
surgical cut made at the opening of the vagina during childbirth to
widen the passage for easy delivery and prevent rupture of tissues,
there is usually the possibility of a cut, tear or scar at the end of
the exercise, which could dampen couples’ sex lives. But there is a way
out.
For women who had CS, one good way to enjoy sex after childbirth
and avoid nightmarish experiences would be to explore extensive foreplay
or adopt other sex positions apart from the missionary style so as not
to put too much pressure on the pain until it heals.
According to a popular nurse and sexual health expert, Samantha Evans, “Pressure
on the wound arising from CS can cause pain, while some loss of
sensation around the wound can also occur, making it sensitive to touch.
Therefore these women should avoid sexual positions which exert
pressure on their abdomens and over the wound site.”
And apart from using helpful sexual positions, experts have advised
foreplay, which can take both parties to orgasm without any penile
intercourse. Medical experts have pointed out that the stimulation of
the glans (the rounded part forming the end of the penis) can make men
ejaculate, and the stimulation of the clitoris or the nipples can take
women to their own destination.
Thankfully, previous studies, as earlier discussed on this page,
have shown that a significant number of women don’t reach orgasm through
penetrative sex, but through the stimulation of such vital parts.
According to a consultant endocrinologist, Dr. Olamoyegun Michael,
couples can still have an exciting sexual experience after childbirth
because, physiologically, childbirth does not affect sexual performance
in women.
He said if there was no problem at delivery and there were no
injuries, there should be no reason for any reduced libido or enjoyment
of sex and couples can enjoy sex after delivery, as much as they did
before the pregnancy.
In fact, he said such women tend to experience increased vaginal
secretion, which is key in sexual enjoyment, and that if there is
dryness at all, it is possibly because there is no enough stimulation.
Thus, the man should engage the woman in extensive foreplay so she could
be wet.
He said, “There is no physiological explanation why somebody
should have reduced libido after delivery. The hormones produced during
pregnancy don’t necessarily increase or reduce libido and they go back
to normal after delivery. The increased blood flow occurs during
pregnancy and there is nothing like that after childbirth. Six weeks
after delivery, the body goes back to pre-pregnancy state. So, whatever
changes that occurred that period disappears six weeks after the
childbirth.”
Be that as it may, Olamoyegun cautioned that whether such women
would enjoy sex, or the extent to which they would, depend on the
circumstances surrounding the delivery.
He explained, “If at delivery, the child was too big, or the
child was in an abnormal position, making the delivery difficult and she
sustains injury, or the woman was given episiotomy, which is a surgical
cut made at the opening of the vagina during childbirth to expand it,
and she had a tear or injury, if it is not allowed to heal very well,
she may end up in pains and that can reduce her libido. It is called
dyspareunia, meaning difficult or painful sexual intercourse.
“If it was episiotomy and it was done by a competent
professional and it was well sutured (a stitch or row of stitches
holding together the edges of a wound or surgical incision), and they
allow it to heal very well before they start having s*x, there shouldn’t
be any problem. They can have a good sex life afterwards. But, there
will be a problem if it didn’t heal very well or if it wasn’t well done.
“For example, the stitching may narrow the birth canal
(vagina), and it may cause pain during sex. If they have a problem and
they feel the woman’s vagina is tighter than how it should be, she would
need to see a competent professional like an obstetrician
gynaecologists, who could dilate it; make it wider, and find a way to
correct or expand it.
“Beyond these, during sex after childbirth, the husband needs
to be gentle with the wife, especially during penetration. Such women
will need to relax and there is need for significant foreplay so she
could be wet to avoid pain during penetration.”
From findings, loose vagina is a common experience after normal
childbirth, and it is a major turn-off for men. So, on what is the way
out, Olamoyegun has this to say.
“There are various forms of exercise that can be done to
tighten the vagina wall if it is loose and one of such is pelvic floor
exercise, also known as Kegel exercise, which helps to tighten the
muscle around the vagina. And it works, but if that is not very
effective, there are other procedures to tighten it.”
He said without exercise, the vagina can still firm up with time
but it may not be very effective and it will take a longer time. So, for
a tighter vagina, which is key in sexual enjoyment, women should take
up such exercises.
But even when all these have been taken care of, it is not uncommon
to see couples having difficulty with their post-partum sex life.
According to Olamoyegun, this is due to some social factors that can be
addressed.
He said, “Women usually add weight during pregnancy and most
women don’t shed that weight after delivery, so they might not be as
pretty and attractive to their husbands as they used to be. It may
reduce the number of times they have sex, and that is why such women are
advised to do some exercises.
“Also, some women shift their attention from the men to the
child, so, they don’t have time for sex neither do they have time to
look attractive for their husbands, which can lessen the interest of the
man in the woman. The fear of pregnancy is also there and it is more so
for those who are not interested in family planning. These are social
factors, and if they are taken care of, there is no reason why there
will be a decrease in sexual drive.”
Source: Punch
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