It is quite a difficult task to remain friends with an opposite s*x and not fall in love, for these reasons...
Can men and women be friends? Any sensible, modern thinking person
would say that, of course, men and women can be close friends and
nothing more.
But is it really that simple? Like it or not, both men and women
are made, by nature, to seek out a mate in members of the opposite
gender, and that natural urge can’t always be put completely to one
side.
Guys and girls should be able to be just friends, and we want to
be, but here are ten reasons why it’s not quite as easy as you might
think:
1. One of you will eventually develop feelings for the other
As we said in our introduction, when two members of the opposite
gender become close, nature will do its best to take things further. At
some point in time, and you know that it often happens, it is quite
likely that the thought of taking the friendship further will cross
someone’s mind, even if only briefly.
2. Jealousy can creep into the equation
A man can get jealous when a close male buddy starts to spend more
time with another guy, so it’s bound to happen in a girl / guy
friendship too. It can get more complicated though, in an opposite
gender friendship, and it can be more difficult for both sides to
handle.
3. Romantic moments will just appear, out of the blue
So, you go out to see a movie, you have dinner after and suddenly,
whoops, this is all getting a bit too serious! There will be times when,
all of a sudden, a night out with a friend starts to feel like a date,
and it can be hard to put the brakes on when that happens.
4. Partners won’t understand this friendship
A lot of people simply don’t believe that a close friendship
between two people of the opposite gender is even possible at all. The
jealousy of partners can put a huge pressure on a platonic friendship
and difficult choices might have to be made.
5. It can get annoying when other people will pressure friends to date
Friends and family will often put pressure on good friends to start
dating. They will say things like: ‘You’re so good together, you should
be dating’. That can get really annoying, but it can also become
tempting.
6. Even TV and movies assume that it’s not possible
The pressure is always on. In the movies and on TV, friends seem to
always become lovers, and the ‘on-off relationship’ often forms a major
part of the plot. It would actually be quite refreshing to watch a
programme where they stay just friends, because they want to.
7. Cross the boundary once, and it’s probably over
Another problem that friends of the opposite gender can have is
that it only takes one moment of indiscretion and the whole friendship
can be ruined. Once the friendship boundary has been crossed, it can be
very difficult to go back again.
8. It can just get embarrassing
While people can talk about pretty much anything to friends, there
will be embarrassing and awkward moments, between opposite gender
friends. When the discussion goes on to embarrassing topics, then that
can lead to two extremely red faces and a rapid change of topic.
9. It is easy to confuse the different types of love
You can love your family, you can love your dog, and yes, you can
love a friend of either gender too. When you love a friend of the same
gender, you know intuitively that it is a different kind of love, but
when that friend is of the opposite gender, it’s not so easy to tell the
difference.
10. Researches show it’s impossible
Of course, it’s possible that friends can stay just friends, but
not everyone can do it and it would seem that it’s the guys that don’t
usually have the strength to keep a friendship platonic. In a recent
study, researchers found that while most of the girls in opposite gender
friendships harboured no hidden desires, by far the majority of the men
did.
Can men and women be friends? Do you think it’s possible for guys and girls to be just good friends?
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