Some
girls when they know you are married or in a relationship will do all
they can to have you. Here are the reasons why it happens.
A few experts on love and marriage explain why a taken dude can seem so much hotter.
1. They've Shown They're Willing and Able to Commit
If women’s most cliché complaint about dating men is that they
resist settling down, it figures that we’d be attracted to someone who
has signed up for a legally binding romance. "He has a demonstrated capacity for commitment," says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.
Of course, there's a big problem here: If he’s willing to cheat with you, there's no guarantee that he won't cheat on you, too.
2. They Are (Ostensibly) Grown-Ups
Statistically speaking, “married men are more likely to be educated, more likely to be working, to have an income, to be responsible,”
says Scott Stanley, Ph.D., codirector of the Center for Marital and
Family Studies at the University of Denver and coauthor of Fighting for
Your Marriage. Anyone can get married, but it still feels like a very
adult thing to do; the guy presumably has his sh*t together. “When a
single woman is used to seeing guys who play video games and live in
their mother’s basement, then the married men look attractive because
they’re actually accomplishing things.”
3. They Enable Any Intimacy Issues You Might Have
A married guy can’t get too close to you, which may be a good thing if you’re the one who has trouble opening up.
“A single woman may be attracted to a married man because she isn’t
ready—or wanting—a committed, long-term relationship at the time,” says Orbuch. “She
selects a man who isn’t really available to her.” Put another way,
“It’s a relationship that’s guaranteed not to work or at least is less
likely to work,” says Stanley.
4. They Make You Feel Good About Yourself
If a married guy flirts with you, texts you, or sleeps with you, he’s taking a major life risk to be able to enjoy your company. “Part of the intoxication is: 'This person’s married, so I must be really special,'”
says Rachel A. Sussman, a licensed clinical social worker, a New
York-based therapist, and a relationship expert. It's easy to tell
yourself, “He’s got a lot to lose, but he’s choosing to be with me.” It’s a huge rush for your self-esteem, which suggests that the single participant may be feeling a bit insecure to begin with.
5. They Give You a Sense of Adventure
The stakes of an affair are incredibly high. You could destroy a marriage, maybe even a family, with one phone call to his wife. “It could be someone who’s attracted to drama,” says Stanley. “They like toying with the situation.” Sussman mentions the endless HBO-level drama of will-they-or-won’t-they leave their wife. “People who are prone to drama, they don’t like the mundane relationships,” she says. “They enjoy the clandestine feel of an affair.”
6. They've Been Vetted as One of the Good Guys (in Theory at Least)
There's nothing like dating a string of losers to make you feel like there are no more decent fish in the sea. “It’s that saying, ‘All the good ones are taken,’” says Stanley. “As a single woman gets older, she may struggle with that.” It can feel unfair that some other woman snapped up your soul mate back in college, never giving him the chance to meet you.
7. They Are Occasionally Just a Good Match for You
It does sometimes happen that a married person stays with their
partner in infidelity. Consider Prince Charles and Camilla, LeAnn Rimes
and Eddie Cibrian, and of course, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. They’re
simply compatible. Even if the new couple doesn’t last forever, their
pairing may have helped the married person escape a situation that
wasn't working. “If you’re in a loveless marriage and there’s no sex, no passion, then you may already be considering leaving,”
says Sussman. A mistress cushions the blow of divorce. It’s just one of
the many motivations for having an affair—or participating in one.
Source: WomensHealthMag
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